Eating Disorders Awareness Week, hosted by Beat, takes place every year at the end of February.
We know that an estimated 725,000 people in the UK are affected by an eating disorder each year.
Although anyone, at any age, can develop an eating disorder, we do know that teenagers and young adults are at the greatest risk. We also know that women are also more than twice as likely to have an eating disorder compared to men.
WebMD physician, Smitha Bhandari (2021), states that at any given moment, one in seven women are struggling with an eating disorder. Additionally, more than 36% of teen girls (more than one out of every three) believed themselves to be “overweight” and nearly 60% are actively trying to lose weight.
Personal Stories
As I sat down to write this piece, I reached out to a few of my friends to learn a bit more about their personal struggles with eating disorders. Here are their stories – names changed to protect confidentiality.
Laura’s story
Laura, now a thirty-something mental health professional, describes her struggle throughout adolescence.
“I was the teeny tiny girl in a family of mostly overweight people. For as long as I can remember as a child, I was always told “You eat like a rabbit”, “You need to put on some weight.” “You’re too skinny…”
“I also got a lot more positive attention than my slightly overweight older sister. As a child, I never felt secure in my own skin. I was either being told I was too small, or being given unwanted attention based on my small frame.”
“Also, my family was chaos. There was constant fighting, name-calling, abuse (of all kinds), and I felt responsible for trying to keep my family safe even though there was pretty much nothing that I could do to calm the chaos in our world. The only thing I felt like I could do was stay below the radar. Be the perfect daughter. Work hard in school because I wanted better for the future, and try to do as many extracurricular activities as possible.”
“But all of that was so hard. There was one thing that I could control though…That was what I put into my body, and what stayed there.”
“Part of it was that I did not want to see myself become overweight and obese. My family acted like they hated that about themselves. It seemed like such a curse. I was an athlete so staying physically active was never a problem for me. I would run harder and push myself further than what my body told me I should.”
“There were times that I would get dizzy, and I would take a sip of Gatorade or eat half a package of crackers. I hid my disorder well. My friend noticed that I always went to the bathroom after I ate. She told my other friends. I felt so judged and ashamed, and I denied everything.”
“I remember thinking that if she was really concerned, why didn’t she come to me in confidence instead of sharing one of my darkest secrets with others. I would look at the calories on everything, and would only eat a serving size, and never indulge. I learned some of the complications that can happen with pro-longed eating disorders and I tried to stop on and off and finally did.“
Beth’s story
Beth, a reader and professional writer in her twenties, describes the struggle she faced during a relapse after recovering from anorexia in her teens.
“I was 23 and 117 pounds and thought I was so big. It wasn’t until looking at old pictures I realized what I looked like. What you see now (when experiencing an eating disorder) isn’t truly what you look like.”
My own story as a mother
Finally, perhaps scariest of all, was a conversation I had with my six-year-old daughter one day.
Sweet K, fidgeting with her clothes, said, “Mom, I need to go on a diet.”
I was floored…she went on to say, “My friends and I are going to eat right and exercise so we don’t gain weight.” My mom heart broke a bit that day. I have always been mindful about how I talk about my body in front of my children, but you can bet that going forward, I work even harder to incorporate discussions around body positivity.
5 Tips for Building a Healthy Self-Image in Children and Youth
Emphasize the positive things that food does for our bodies.
Talk about healthy eating in terms of what specific foods do for your body. Foods are not “good” or “bad”…they just affect our body in different ways.
Counter negative media.
It is no secret that even after decades of shouting about the way “beauty” is portrayed in the media, this problem of unrealistic expectations of our bodies due to magazine covers, television shows, etc. still exists. Encourage your child to find role models famous for positive contributions to the world, not the way that they look.
Encourage positive friendships.
In adolescence, so much of the worth teens give themselves is tied to what their friends think of them. Positive influences and healthy relationships will go a long way in creating a healthy teen.
Promote healthy habits
Your teen will feel at his or best mentally when they:
- Engage regularly in an exercise that they genuinely enjoy.
- Get enough rest each night and on weekends.
- Eat a balanced diet.
Keeping these three elements in balance helps to promote body positivity and a healthy self-image.
Set a good example.
Finally, and most importantly, be the example. It’s hard. As adults, we still struggle with body image too. When I start to catch myself bashing on my body a bit, I ask myself how I would feel if my children talked about their bodies in that way. We must practice self-love and healthy body image if we want our children to develop it.
Signs of an Eating Disorder
If you notice any of these signs in your children, seek medical advice as soon as possible.
- Distorted body image – see Beth’s story above about being 117 pounds and thinking she was overweight.
- Concerning eating habits – such as skipping meals or purging after meals
- Extreme changes in weight, sleep, or behavioral habits
- Changes in hair and nail texture
- Dental issues
- Hyperfocus on exercise
Further Resources on Eating Disorders
If you found this article helpful, check out these additional resources on overcoming eating disorders.
- The Lily-Jo Project’s eating disorders resource page
- Emma’s story, Lessons learnt from 20 years of an Eating Disorder
- Mary Kate’s story on growing up with an eating disorder
- Beat Eating Disorders resources and helplines
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